Let me start by saying that I love the Internet. I do!
Some people argue that we, as a generation, are “dumber” because of our E-access, but I feel that the opposite is true...except when it comes to interpersonal relationships.
I was a typical example of someone who unsuspectingly and naively got seduced in to an idealistic cyber world, only to find that the fantasy was just that...a figment of my over-active imagination.
Even worse, I (usually being the #1 cynic in my circle of friends) put trust, compassion and personal effort in to complete strangers, who, 9.5 times out of 10, turned out to be total morons, or worse.
I am NOT saying that all people online are “bad”, in fact I have made a handful of good friends that I see in person or talk to on a regular basis, but in response to the HUNDREDS of women that I have spoken with in the last few years, devastated yet again over some fake-wannabe, cyber- lover-lost, I have decided to write a post based on my own observations:
CYBER WARNINGS
People LIE.
They just do, and if you are not one of those people, don’t spend one solitary moment of life trying to figure out why.
There is a REASON that a person has relationships “online” and not “offline.”
I am willing to admit that I spent my fair share of time “online only” and that my personal reason was because I was not ready to deal with people face to face. When I felt ready, I re-entered the real world. So, not ALL reasons are diabolic. But think about it, why would I, as an available person, remain in that world indefinitely?
Here is the list of reasons that some people use for being Internet Predators - (these are limited to those that I have been privy and/or subject to)
A) Married or Attached (I know, I know...poor him, his wife wont put out and she’s a bitch)
B) Lying about who I am - my gender, my looks, my occupation, my entire BEING. (I have seen a person with upwards of 10 multiple personalities and online lives, AT ONCE!)
C) My kink is to fuck with people’s minds
D) My ego is such that I want to control you 100% and if I can do it from online, then I am all the more powerful.
E) I am a dog
F) I am unstable
G) I am emotionally unavailable
H) I am horny
I) “Hey, everyone knows what cyber is about, so if they believe me, that’s their problem!”
J) I’m bored and have NO life.
There is a REASON that people only get involved with others from another state (or country for that matter). (Think about it)
Post-Script: Most Super-Models, Lawyers, Doctors and other successful people, do NOT have time to spend 10 hours “chatting” with you every day. (They don’t even have 10 hours a week.)
My point is not to say that these things shouldn't go on, per SE. People are free to do and be whatever they wish, but to those that are constantly surprised and even hurt by people they meet online, this article is for you.
Please use the Internet wisely. Be careful, cautious and mindful of the fact that you are entering in to a fantasy when you invest any part of yourself into an online relationship.
If you want a “real” relationship - then go get one! Meet people (in person) that you meet online, but please understand that if you choose not to, you are, most likely, nothing more than prey.
I know that in the back of your mind you know this...so why aren’t you listening to your instincts?
Cyber-Sex or Cyber-Sucker? You choose.
-kyuuri
